In the game of life, there are big boys (and girls of course) and then there are the rest of us. Big boys follow a different set of rules from the small boys. Big boys play big games, think of big things, use big words and will absolutely crush you big time if you get in their way.
Big boys live in big houses, and drive big cars. And at night they sleep in their big beds and have big dreams.
Big boys rarely get into problems and if they do, other big boys help them.
It is good to be big isn't it? However, not everyone will grow big. Some choose not to but many others simply do not have what it takes.
You might be happy with way things are with your life. Good for you. Life is not about getting the biggest house, having your own army or a million pairs of shoes. What you want in life is your choice.
But whatever is is you want, somewhere down the road, a big boy will want the same thing too. He will be waiting. You will have to pass him and to do that you will have to play his game according to his rules. Here are a few lessons how you can do that.
The first thing you must remember when dealing with people of power is that to never appear as a threat. Big boys have big egos. They may appear humble, gracious and charitable, that is just a front they show. Beneath it is something else. Something scary.
The rich and powerful are always wary of threat. The moment they detect one, they will remove it or simply crush it. Until and unless you are big enough yourself, do not ever do anything that can be perceived as a threat to them.
In the business world, they are many examples of companies starting small and growing into mega corporations. The car industry is a good example. When the Japanese first started making cars, they did not take on the U.S auto industry directly. First they focused on domestic markets, then Asian markets, before taking on the might of the US auto industry. In the early days the Japanese auto makers never appeared as a threat to the big boys in the US. If they had done so, you can be sure the big boys in Detroit would have acted to preserve their dominance.
You have to keep in mind that men and women of power did not achieve their position by wearing kid's glove. They are ruthless, especially when they feel threatened.
Lesson No 1 - Do Not Appear As A Threat.
Monday 25 January 2016
Sunday 24 January 2016
If
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936)
'if' by rudyard kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936
Tuesday 19 January 2016
Old Papers
I came across some old magazines today.
The first thing you notice about them is the smell. There is something unique about the smell of papers that have aged. It instantly makes one feel a part of history. Then you see the print. No fancy lettering. Neat and tidy. Uncluttered.
And then there is the adverts. Simple and straight to the point. You got to love them.
As I was going through them, I wondered about the its readers. I saw the publishing date, June 1970. What was going through their minds. I wondered about the writers. Where are they now? Are they still alive? Did they finished their careers as journalists or did they moved on.
As I put back the magazines in its place, I felt grateful for the invention of paper and ink that allowed one generation of mankind to capture its thought and allow the next generation to have knowledge of it.
The first thing you notice about them is the smell. There is something unique about the smell of papers that have aged. It instantly makes one feel a part of history. Then you see the print. No fancy lettering. Neat and tidy. Uncluttered.
And then there is the adverts. Simple and straight to the point. You got to love them.
As I was going through them, I wondered about the its readers. I saw the publishing date, June 1970. What was going through their minds. I wondered about the writers. Where are they now? Are they still alive? Did they finished their careers as journalists or did they moved on.
As I put back the magazines in its place, I felt grateful for the invention of paper and ink that allowed one generation of mankind to capture its thought and allow the next generation to have knowledge of it.
Sunday 17 January 2016
Coping With Stress
Stress kills. You have heard than many times throughout your life but you like to think it kills other people and not you.
Maybe it doesn't, however here are a few strategies that you can use to reduce stress now.
1. Write down your feelings. Take a few minutes put on paper what you are feeling. What is making you you feel like that. Let it all out. Don't hold back.
2. Listen to light soothing music
3. Drink something warm. No alcohol
4. Focus on the present
5. Visualize places that you have enjoyed visiting
6. Try smiling
The above are some tips for immediate stress relive, below are some daily routine you can do to avoid stress or at least keep it in check.
1. Meditate
2. Pick up a hobby
3. Exercise at least 20 minutes a day
4. Write down what you are grateful for.
5. Smile
You have only one life. Live it to the fullest.
Maybe it doesn't, however here are a few strategies that you can use to reduce stress now.
1. Write down your feelings. Take a few minutes put on paper what you are feeling. What is making you you feel like that. Let it all out. Don't hold back.
2. Listen to light soothing music
3. Drink something warm. No alcohol
4. Focus on the present
5. Visualize places that you have enjoyed visiting
6. Try smiling
The above are some tips for immediate stress relive, below are some daily routine you can do to avoid stress or at least keep it in check.
1. Meditate
2. Pick up a hobby
3. Exercise at least 20 minutes a day
4. Write down what you are grateful for.
5. Smile
You have only one life. Live it to the fullest.
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